Men's Biggest Responsibility

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.

Assalamualaikum wbt.

1. Recently I posted on my Facebook wall about an interview by Canadian media with a Malaysian Muslim student studying there. She was interviewed regarding her niqab (veil on face with eyes still visible).

2. You can watch the video here.

3. But I want to talk about one of the things she mentioned, not specifically about hijab or niqab, but about choosing her husband.

4. She said that of course she has the freedom (in Islam) to choose her own husband, suggesting how important that freedom is, because it could be a difference between Paradise or Hell fire.

5. The BIG point to note is on the last few words above.

6. What a wonderful insight she has there, and in my opinion is definitely true.

7. Woman should be married to a man she is convinced can help her be closer to God and granted Paradise in the Hereafter.

8. I also believe that it works the other way around i.e woman should be a wife who helps her husband to fulfill his responsibility as a leader, a father, a husband and a Muslim who aims for Paradise as well.

9. Here's the biggest implication.

10. Imagine if a woman looks for a guy with wealth alone. There's no guarantee that the wealth that he has will make him loyal to his wife.

11. Theoretically, it could be a source of trials, or fitnah, that he can use the money to 'buy' other women too, if you understand what I mean.

12. Conversely, a man fully aware of his responsibility to lead his wife (and himself, for that matter) for Paradise will observe the teaching of Islam more firmly and strictly- which could mean a better loyalty and hopefully a more sincere love to the spouse, for the sake of Him Almighty.

13. This is mentioned not to deny the importance of material needs like money. But then again, it's about what we put our most reliance upon and what best reason we take in life's decision-making, marriage being one of those ;-)

Wallahuaklam. Wassalamualaikum wbt ;-)